Anxiety in the beginning of a relationship
“ Everytime I see him, everytime I receive his texts and everytime I think about him, I get the feeling of butterflies in my stomach. We have been talking to each other non-stop for the past couple of weeks, we are really getting along and he has told me he likes me. I like him too. A lot! But, I constantly feel like he might lose interest in me. I often wonder – am I good enough for him? What if he finds someone better? What if he is not the right guy? I am so drenched under all these questions, that sometimes I act completely unlike me. “
To feel this way at the beginning of the relationship is quite normal. Most people feel anxious about getting into a new relationship or after getting into a new relationship. All the voices inside our head keep telling that something will go wrong – the voices about your partner and the voices about yourself.
These critical voices within us may ruin the relationship that might have worked out otherwise, so here are a few things you can do to get over your relationship anxiety:
- Give Yourself Time
Don’t rush into anything. Give yourself time to think and analyze. That way you will be able to get over your fears and shut down those inner voices. If you take time to think and calm your nerves down, you will only get into the relationship more sorted and happily.
- Don’t be afraid to make mistakes
The one thing we must learn is to be okay with making mistakes. The relationship might not work out. They might not be the right person. But if you keep fearing all these ‘ifs’, you will miss out on ‘what could have happened’. So, don’t be afraid to make mistakes. Live in the moment.
Communicate with your partner about your anxiety. Sharing will definitely help – at least for you to let it out in the open. Also, your partner might be able to help you deal with what you are feeling or make you feel better.
- Shift your focus inward
Focus on what is going on inside you. Your anxiety comes from within, not your surroundings. Once you start shifting your focus inward, you will be able to reflect on yourself and separate yourself from your partner and your relationship. One of the critical parts of dealing with anxiety is boosting your self-esteem and focus on your inner self is a great way to do that!
On top of all of this, don’t be afraid to ask for help! If you are having issues with dealing with something and you think it is affecting your daily life schedule, always ask for help!